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I was the only woman on a team at a large software company.  When I joined the team, I was the least experienced and so I had no problem doing the more basic work.  However, I was surprised when two years later I was still being given the simple and boring assignments. The team had grown and I was now near the middle in terms of education and seniority.  

Durring my performance review, I asked my boss what I could do to improve so that I could earn more interesting work.  He explained to me that I was being held back by my agressive atitude.  I spoke up at meetings, defended my opinions, and occasionally contradicted others when they were wrong.  I was confused because I didn’t feel my behavior was different from my team mates.  He explained that this behavior was welcome from some types of people, but I should learn to be soft spoken.  There aren’t many women in my field so I have to be especially careful not to antagonize men who are not used to female coworkers.  I immediately began the process to transfer to another team.  I am still struck by the fact that he honestly appeared to believe this lecture was both appropriate and helpful.

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    ^^ my life in tech support. i had the joy of being in desktop support and all my tasks were taken away by male members...
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    Fuck this shit.
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